Relationships have their challenges. They may start in that everything-is-new honeymoon phase, but soon the reality of differences in communication and lifestyles, boredom, and stress set in, and you feel like you’re in a relationship crisis.
However, just because these things come up doesn’t mean that your relationship wasn’t meant to be. Sometimes the best things are achieved through perseverance. When a relationship goes through a rough patch, one of the best things you can do is communicate openly and pile on the love.
Love, Love, Love
The most effective way to show someone you love them is to find out what makes them tick. When you figure out how someone wants to receive love, they will more easily recognize your efforts to show love to them. Dr. Gary Chapman called these demonstrations of love “love languages“:
- Verbal affirmations
- Service
- Spending quality time
- Gift giving
- Physical connection
Let’s see how these can help you in your relationship.
Speaking Verbal Affirmations
If your partner thrives off of compliments, expressions of love, and cheering them on, they probably feel loved when you use your words to let them know how much they mean to you.
So, one way to pile the love on someone like this is to leave sticky notes around the house that remind them how amazing you think they are. Shoot them a quick mid-day text while they’re at work to let them know that you love them. Take the time every day to let them know that you appreciate all they do and how hard they are working or studying.
Giving Gifts
Some people are motivated by gifts. While we all enjoy gifts once in a while, these people see gifts as an expression of thoughtfulness and love. They aren’t expecting diamonds or a new Nissan for sale, though they probably wouldn’t complain about that! Instead, they want to feel through your gift choice that you know them, put in an effort, and are genuine.
Physical Connection
There are many ways to provide the physical connection some people crave. If your partner receives love through a physical connection, they’re probably extra cuddly, won’t leave the house without a kiss, and really appreciate massages. This physical touch is what helps them feel loved and create a connection with you.
Serving
Someone who feels love through service won’t be able to resist you as you look for small things you can do to help them out. So whether it’s taking them lunch to work, making the bed, or doing that thing on the to-do list that they’ve been dreading, they will feel appreciated and loved when you do a little something for them.
Spending Quality Time Together
Quality time is more than just sitting on the couch, each person looking at their phone. Quality time means spending time together talking about the future or taking a walk together. It means giving your undivided attention during an activity. If your partner feels the love this way, plan a regular date night and put your phone away while you’re out.
Let Love Reign
Rough patches weren’t meant to end relationships, so hang in there, communicate, and add extra love into the equation. You’ll both come out stronger.
